Saturday, October 25, 2014

Fit Shaming

Let me start off by saying I have been both fat and fit. (Currently, I'm in the middle of the two, having just had a baby.) But by far, I have encountered more shaming as a fit person than a fat one. And now, getting back to the "grind" it's starting back up again in ever-so-subtle comments.

So I ask this: why the eff-bomb is it OK to comment about a fit persons body, but it is considered rude and bullying the other way around?  I'm not saying it doesn't happen. It absolutely does, and fat shaming is never OK, either!  But in my own personal experience, nobody said a damn thing when I was larger.  Oh but being fit, it's totally OK to criticize.

I've been accused of being obsessed.  I've been accused of "worrying" about being fit. People diminish my dedication, implying I have it easy by saying things like "I wish I had the time that you do to work out." (I really effing hate that one.) I've heard my friends get accused of getting "too small" or "too muscular." And then, my favorite, people saying "I'd rather spend that time with my family" as an acceptable jab questioning your dedication to family.

Here's a news flash!!! Working out and eating healthy doesn't make me think I'm better than anyone! It doesn't make me a bad mom! I have to plan out and make time for it just like everyone else who chooses this lifestyle. It's important to me so I sacrifice other things in order to make time for it.  Things I put off so I can work out still need to be done.  I don't have it easy. (Nobody does, really.)  Getting in shape is anything but easy...no matter who you are or what your circumstances are!!!! Don't downplay it!

Bottom line is that being fit coincides with the lifestyle that I want!  What you choose is your business!  And I respect that!  But just so you know, the next person that decides it is OK to put me down for working out or comment on my body (because I WILL be super ripped eventually!), I get to unload a bunch of comments about your lifestyle and body!  It's the same damn thing!  

Can't we just be happy for each others successes?!  Is it so hard to accept our differences that we need to put each other down?

3 comments:

  1. What to do about people who are jealous. That's what this blog is really about. There is a word I use for women who undermine other women's happiness and success. It's that B word. Blow em off Ness. They are not worth the worry.

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  2. I'm not worried about them. It's just annoying and it's such a double standard. The last person told me "I wouldn't worry about it" when I was talking about fitting into my old jeans. I just said I wasn't worried. I was excited. What do my goals have to do with anyone but me?

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