Why is it that people think they need to bust out the "everything happens for a reason" saying when you're going through a shit storm in your life? I LOATHE that saying now. That could quite possibly be attributed to infertility and hearing it over and over again during a time when all I really wanted to hear was "yeah...this shit sucks." When someone is going through a divorce, cancer, the death of a family member, they don't want to hear about the reasons that this awful thing is happening. At least I didn't. Maybe I'm in the minority here. I don't know. But to me, regardless if there was a reason or not, telling someone this during a horrid time in their life is kind of rude. Unless you can tell me the exact reason it's happening, then shut your pie hole! I believe sometimes we are dealt a hand in life that is just shitty. Period. And we handle them the best we can and try to look at the bright side. If you believe everything happens for a reason, that's fabulous. Good for you! Maybe wait until people who are dealing with heavy stuff have had time to at least process their situation enough to think of what those reasons may be.
Ok. End Rant.
Shit happens. The fortunate thing is that we can (if we wish) give reason and value to that experience. The same applies to the often repeated saying , "Its God's will". Not for a second do I believe that it is God's will that I suffer. What I do believe is that I have the option of turning to God for the purpose of turning a difficult time into a Blessing. Some things happen that make no sense. They happen to people who deserve more. We can, however, give meaning and value to those experiences. Some just have this backward's.
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