Relax

I knew this was going to happen.

"See.  The second you relax and stopped trying/stressing, you get pregnant."

No.

No. No. No. No. No!

The infertility causes the stress. Stress does not cause the infertility.

Sometimes, when you have a baby, you body will Kickstart and you have a nice little fertile window.  But let me be clear. This is not always the case.  Some people experience both primary and secondary infertility.  Sometimes, people experience just secondary infertility.  The key is not relaxing.  Sometimes medical anomalies happen.

My biggest fear is that people will use me in their anecdotal information of how I just relaxed and got pregnant it is not that simple.  Ya know, "my friend did ivf and then she relaxed and got pregnant on her own."  I don't want to be that person.  Relaxing does not cure a medical condition.  PERIOD!

In fact, it feels like a miracle to me because not only were we not trying. But we were preventing.   Let's look at all the reasons why the probability of this pregnancy is so low.

1) Birth control.  Ok so we figured out that I was already pregnant before I started the pill. But condoms are pretty reliable...right?  And I was adamant about using them because I worried if I got pregnant too early, my uterus wouldn't be ready.  Also, I really wanted to be back to my original weight.

2) Frequency.   After you have a baby, you're tired.  And you don't feel sexy with milk squirting out of your boobs and not having showered for 3 days straight.  You just don't feel that sexy. At least I didn't. So I rarely put out. (TMI?)  But seriously.  I don't even think we averaged once a week.

3) Timing.  I had one real period since having Mason.  And it was in December.  I got pregnant at the end of January. That means I ovulated like 40 days after my period.  That isn't exactly normal.  So somehow we timed is just perfectly, which is crazy because of the frequency we were actually doing "the deed."  Then factor in the condom and that one had to sneak by.

4)  Low sperm count/motility.  Garrett has been tested soooo many times.  Each time, he had the same results.  Very low count and low motility.  Ok so now we have sickly sperm that has to get through a condom,  go down the right fallopian tube, that just happened to be on a night we did it that just happened to be when I was ovulating.  The odds have to be astronomical.

And THAT is why I believe it is nothing short of a miracle. Perhaps karma if that's more up your alley. But it was definitely NOT because we relaxed.

So if you tell your friends about us, or have an infertile friend, tell them our story....but do NOT chock up this miracle to "relaxing."  Please!